How to Support Him in Dealing With Erectile Dysfunction

When a woman first learns that her husband or partner has erectile dysfunction, it can be very devastating. Before admitting about his condition, you might have been wondering what has gone wrong with your sexual relationship. All sorts of questions may go through your mind. Is he bored having sex with me? Am I not attractive anymore? Worse, it might take a while for him to be able to tell you the truth. Up to that time, he probably just tried his best to cope with his problem on his own because he was afraid of your response or embarrassed that ED makes him feel less manly. He may even avoid intimacy that can lead to sex such as trying not to touch you or go to bed right away without sex. Every time you ask, he may have said nothing was wrong, or he was just tired or did not feel like it. Now that you have learned the problem, you need to support him as best as you can. There are a few things you can do.

• First of all, you need to learn about erectile dysfunction itself. Find out as much information as you can. You can look it up on the Internet, learn from health books or even have a consultation with an expert who can tell you everything about ED, and possibly how you should support your partner. When you have obtained sufficient information and knowledge about ED, you will be able to support your partner and help him deal with it in the best possible way. Whether he has started a treatment, or is still looking for a solution, the two of you need to discuss what kind of treatment will suit him best and make you both feel comfortable. However, if that method does not work, then it is time for him to try another method that might not be as comfortable but offers better results. Tell him that you are certain that he will be able to cure his ED and there are many other methods, that if one fails, he should not worry.
• The next thing you should do is to accompany him to see a doctor, but only if he does not mind your presence. This will show him that you really support him and that you even take the time to go to the doctor with him. As an unhealthy lifestyle also contributes to ED, you should also persuade him to live a healthier lifestyle, such as being on a healthy diet, to quit smoking, reduce drinking, exercise more regularly and so on.
• The most important thing you should do is to tell him that ED does not make him less of a man in your eyes, and that it is not an uncommon problem, that many men, even younger ones, also have the same problem. There are times when he will be frustrated, and your job is to calm him, be there for him or even give him time and space to deal with his frustration.

It may take time to overcome erectile dysfunction. Be patient with the whole treatment process and also help him to be patient as well. In terms of your sex life, both of you do not need to feel stressed just because of his condition. There are many things you can do to keep the spice of your sex life. Look up on the Internet on how couples having this same problem can still have fun in bed, and explore other things related to it that you might never have known before. Your sex life can still be as exciting as it was while the two of you wait for his treatment to show results.